很多人刚看到题目时,很有可能会不屑一顾地说:9岁孩子的礼节,我当然知道啦。那就请再仔细读一读。
对刚来加拿大的孩子,甚至成人,无论是长期留学还是短期游学,我们会反复强调和提醒以下25个基本礼节,因为这是中西文化差异和英语表达里最基本也是最重要的一部分。您可以看到,每一条都体现“尊重”二字。正因为是9岁孩子都普遍掌握的基本礼节,当你没有这样去做时,加拿大人会觉得你很Rude(粗鲁)。当然,当孩子们留意并且亲眼目睹了外国孩子的做法后,会更容易学习。
这是哥伦比亚大学临床心理学博士、美国小学校长David Lowry总结的,英文原文也有附上。
我曾在学校看到这一幕:一个10岁的学生在走廊打断两个老师的谈话,当然,遭到了老师的批评,我心里很不是滋味,因为我意识到,这个孩子可能根本不知道,打断别人的谈话是不礼貌的行为。于是我根据自己这些年的教育经验,总结了下面25条美国孩子需要掌握的基本礼节,供所有家长作参考:
1. 向别人询问事情,说“请”。
2. 当接受东西时,说“谢谢。”
3. 除非有意外,否则切勿打断大人们的交谈。大人谈完话后会注意到你并回答你。
4. 当你需要他人的注意或想与人谈话,最礼貌的短语是“对不起,打扰了” 。(EXCUSE ME)
5. 当你不确信事情可不可以做,先问许可。这样可以避免日后长时间的悲痛。
6. 世人对你讨厌的事情并不感兴趣。将消极的想法留给自己或与朋友们保留,不要向大人们诉苦。
7. 不要评论他人的外表,当然除非是好评,好评总受欢迎。
8. 当别人问你可好,回答他们,并问他们可好。
9. 当你到朋友家玩时,记住对你朋友的父母说谢谢邀请,也谢谢在一起的好时光。
10.门若是关着的,请敲门,等着回音,再进去。
11. 当你打电话时,先介绍自己,然后问可否与你要通话的人交谈。
12. 收到任何礼物,都要感恩,并说“谢谢”。在有电子邮件的年代,手写的“感谢卡”价值尤显珍贵。
13. 在大人面前绝不可以说粗话。大人了解这些脏话,他们觉得脏话沉闷又粗鲁。
14. 不要给人起低劣的绰号。
15. 不要因任何原因取笑任何人。取笑人表明你很软弱,与别人合伙来欺负人是很残忍的事。
16. 若戏剧或会议很枯燥,仍然要安静地坐着,让人感觉你是感兴趣的。表演者和演讲者都在尽全力。
17. 若不小心碰撞到别人,立即说“对不起"。
18. 咳嗽或打喷嚏时,请遮住嘴。不要在公众场合挖鼻孔。
19.当你穿走门道时,看看你能否为他人扶门。
20.你父母、老师或邻居在做事情时,若你经过,询问是否可以帮助他们,若他们说“可以”,你去帮助他们 - 你很可能学会做新的事情。
21. 大人请你帮忙时,带着微笑毫无怨言地去做。
22.当别人帮助你时,说“谢谢”。帮助你的人会更愿意再帮助你。尤其是对老师而言。
23. 正确地使用餐具。若不太确信如何使用,问你父母,让他们教你,或观察其他大人是如何使用的。
24. 用餐时,将餐巾纸放膝上,需要时用纸巾擦嘴。
25. 用餐时,不要伸出手去拿桌上的东西;请别人将食物传给你。
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Manner#2: When receiving something, say "Thank you.
Manner#3: Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there isan emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.
Manner#4: If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase"excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.
Manner#5: When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It cansave you from many hours of grief later.
Manner#6: The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions toyourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.
Manner#7: Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, ofcourse, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.
Manner#8: When people ask you how you are, answer them and then ask them how theyare. Manner #9: When you have spent time at your friend's house, remember tothank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.
Manner#10: Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response -- beforeentering. Manner #11: When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first andthen ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.
Manner#12: Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive. Inthe age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.
Manner#13: Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know allthose words, and they find them unpleasant.
Manner#14: If you can’t say anything nice, say nothing.
Manner#15: Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you areweak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.
Manner#16: Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly andpretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing theirbest.
Manner#17: If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."
Manner#18: Cough and sneeze into your bent elbow.
Manner#19: As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open forsomeone else.
Manner#20: If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working onsomething, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you maylearn something new.
Manner#21: When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with asmile. Manner #22: When someone helps you, say "thank you." Thatperson will likely want to help you again. This is especially true withteachers!
Manner#23: Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask yourparents to teach you or watch what adults do.
Manner#24: Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.
Manner#25: Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.
Manner#26: (a bonus) You do not have to be friends with everyone, you will not likeeveryone you meet, but you must always be polite.
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